I’m Single &…

• By Nic
• 14 January, 2013
• 2 Comments

….. I’m okay with it. I think that I want to tread lightly  here because I’m not one of those single women who want to do what I want, don’t need a man, I can do bad all by myself, independent woman etc. etc.  In terms of  economically, I’m an independent woman, just based on the definition, but I don’t go around like I have something to prove or have a chip on my shoulder, but on the flip side, I don’t sit around waiting for that person to come along to live my life.

I’ve been dating, but nothing serious and people really never know if I’m single or not because I don’t broadcast it. My motto is, if I’m not married, I’m single. Now, don’t go off the deep end on me. I’m committed to the person that I’m seeing when I am seeing someone, but I think that unless the relationship is heading in a serious direction I don’t need to let the world know. As we all know, dating relationships can be very fickle.

I’m also the type that is very intuitive until it comes to how a person feels about me. In those circumstances, I don’t want to read your mind. I want to know what you think, what you feel and what you want. I need not  read one’s mind. I found out recently that one guy  that I grew up with, I mean we were friends since like the 7^th grade was “in love” with me for like that entire time and I never knew it. Told you, I’m oblivious. To that I say, a closed mouth really doesn’t get fed.

Funny story though, I recently, not so recently, but recently enough within the past 2 year, was trying to get more intuitive about  men. So, I had the male acquaintance that I thought had feelings for me, but was too afraid to say it and really I thought he was okay too. So I busted out telling him how I felt after  not talking to him for a few months and his response was, “I’m seeing someone.” Haha… at  the time I was like, oh my goodness, what did I do,  but I laugh about it even as I write because that just proves that you gotta hit me on the head with love for me to recognize it because I have not had much success in figuring it out.

Needless to say, I guess everyone has to experience rejection at some point… even if it took me many, many years! LMBO!

I won’t join a dating website, not because I have anything against them, but because I like to have human interaction. It is just becoming more easy for people not to experience life as it comes.  So, in my travels, I will talk to anyone* who doesn’t appear crazy*….although, you can never tell, but I figured if you got on the plane, you’re not on some watch list and at least you have a valid form of identification, you can’t have one of those with certain things on your record…lol

I took 2012 off from the whole dating scene, but  I still met some cool people and who knows? The one can be at the bottom of my stairs in the apartments downstairs or at the grocery store or wherever. I don’t worry about it. It’ll come. Just know, if you’re the one, don’t expect me to figure it out because we might not get there.

…And thanks to those people who say that I have it all, why not that guy. I know what I want and I will not compromise those values. Again, don’t go rolling your eyes. I’m not like he has to be 10’10 makes 100 figures etc. I’m talking more values based types of wants.

Being single is fun! Very fun…I really can’t say that I’m sitting  in my room/house waiting for Mr. Right to knock on the door. I love to travel and I’m always on the go… If anything, I might meet him in the friendly skies. I say that because lately that is where I meet a lot of guys. That is my “Internet” dating.