Preface-I know that no one is here for spiritual guidance, but from time to time I’ll share things that may or may not open your eyes.
I admit, I can be giving and nice and maybe to some, a fault, but I’ll never allow people to take advantage of me. In the past, I’ve really struggled with letting go of people who hurt me. I felt like I was holding them accountable for whatever ill they’ve done to me until I got a revelation of what it truly means to forgive.
Forgiveness really is nothing more than you being so at peace with anyone or anything that they’ve done to you and even when they still smirk at you, you can still smile and say, peace be with you. That isn’t easy to do. It is very hard to let bye-gones be bye-gones.
As far as I go, personally speaking, I have very good relationships with everyone that I’ve dated in the past. Ha! Don’t get the wrong idea, when a few of them and me parted ways, it was blow for blow (not hitting), just verbally and then years go by and one day we’ll just someone how sit down and talk about it, but in that moment of fire, I’m telling you, emotions run so high…I almost always think that I will never speak to said person again, but somehow, we always apologize to each other and move on.
See, I don’t have to be ugly to move on with my life and the truth is, I never want to walk by someone that I cared deeply about without as much as a hello. I’m not that type of person. Sure, there might not be dinner nights out and what not, but being cordial is beneficial. It also never fails that the moment that I release it (whatever it was that had me upset) I feel so free. Notice, I’m not saying that I was right all of the time because I’ve had to humble myself and woman up to be the first to say, you know, I got out of hand.
Notice, there is no oh it’s because I love him… my thing is, whatever the reason for a relationship to end is that reason, I don’t subscribe to re-dating so for me, choosing to forgive people so that I can be free isn’t about anything more than my peace of mind…and I use dating relationships, but it can be any relationship. I often feel bad after letting people “have it” so before I let people have it now-a-days I think about it. It is never a good feeling. For one, I’m instantly convicted with the what would Jesus do question.